At first you thought he was being overly-attentive and helpful. He's a strong, decisive man who knows what he wants and says what he means.
The charm turned into manipulation, and his kindness hinged on your towing the line.
Poor self-worth is what traps us in bad relationships, what sabotages new relationships, and what causes us to feel so devastated and broken when a relationship ends.
Controlling men aren't always the beefed up tough guys you see in the movies who yell and scream to get their way.
From my personal experiences, and my years spent writing about relationships, I’ve learned that poor self-esteem is the number one cause of unhealthy relationships, as well as the top relationship killer.
Self-esteem isn’t an essential need like food or water, but it’s a supplement that can either dramatically improve your life, or keep you stunted and unfulfilled.
In fact, someone I know has that dynamic in their relationship. Her boyfriend is actually terrified of her, because when they do fight, she tends to get carried away. He’s an abused man, and there are more of them out there than you know. It’s because a lot of men don’t know how to stand up for themselves, and especially don’t know how to stand up to a woman. He had low self-esteem like a lot of guys, and low self-esteem can be killer. Some men with self-esteem issues feel like they don’t deserve a woman.
They feel like they’re never going to find a great woman, so when they get into a relationship, they stay in it just because they’re glad to be with someone.