By Priscilla Morales, mom to two awesome kids, stepmom to a rockstar stepdaughter. Toys in the bathtub and — on occasion — in the toilet. For the single woman, single should not be eliminated from the dating pool.
Early dinner to accommodate the babysitter's schedule. Let me be clear: I'm talking about responsible single dads — those who pay child support, invest time in their children and, you know, do what fathers are supposed to do.
After dating and befriending men over the past decade with children, I’ve found two things to be true. Dating a man that has a horrible relationship with his child’s mother is a situation you never want to get into. When dating a man that is in a constant battle with his baby mama, you will never be at peace, because he is never at peace. If the comment is somewhere along the lines of we deal with each other well, or we maintain a relationship for the child/children…I proceed.
Obviously, I haven’t polled every man and every relationship, but I think we’ve all seen enough to know it’s no fun for anyone. Now, you’re probably wondering how their relationship could be too good.
These guys prioritize around their kids, so they have zero tolerance or time for silly dating games. Kicking around a soccer ball, watching the newest -hood.
They are more willing to cut through the nonsense and commit to someone they feel is genuine, trustworthy, and a rockstar. Spending time with my future stepdaughter taught me that I can be patient and ﬂexible, two traits I never thought I had!
Long story short, he had another child (#3 for him). Rebound; she also had two other children from different men (3 “baby daddies” total).
Neither one of those fathers were actively in their kid’s lives (no child support, visits, NOTHING).
" In their eyes you just aren't Still willing to go at this relationship like a champ? Saturday nights are for couples unless your man has his son every other weekend.
But how do you deal with this situation when you don't have any children of your own?
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And it has made me think a lot about relationship dynamics…I honestly don’t think I could be with a guy with a vindictive ex.
I have deliberately never dated a guy with kids because of a whole bunch of selfish reasons. Cold you date a guy who is always wrapped up in the drama of an ex (especially if there are kids involved)? And conversely, I wanna hear from you if you ARE the drama, different perspectives are always really interesting!