American girls are much less used to guys being gentlemen — opening the door for the lady, waiting for her to sit before you sit, etc.
American dating rituals can keep a lot of surprises in store for the unsuspecting ex-pat, even one who was successful with women in his own country.
An Italian girl would never leave her friend alone.
It can sometimes take a long time for a romantic relationship to develop into an official boyfriend/girlfriend relationship. There are all kinds of different stages of relationships that foreigners need to be aware of, and some of them will always seem kind of ridiculous (like the open-relationship stuff, I am just never able to get it).My friends were so surprised that at 24 years old I had never had a real Valentine’s Day, but I am pretty sure I am not alone (please LEAVE COMMENTS below if this year was also your first V-Day! Last Valentine’s Day, my friend told me not to be sad that I didn’t have anyone to celebrate with – when the time is right, it will exceed all your expectations. So let’s go back to talking about the big V-Day date, and chatting about some points that I think are interesting to share.Having “the talk” Before V-Day this year, my boyfriend and I had been dating for a couple of months, and we were right at the point of “defining the relationship.” We had a big, formal talk over dinner one night to discuss where we were in this relationship and where it should be going, and this talk basically determined if we would celebrate Valentine’s Day together.S., try to limit yourself to one per evening and refrain from discussing your other dates with the person trying to delicately chew burrito opposite you.Agreeing to “be exclusive” is a discussion you’ll have at some stage if things are progressing well.It is hard to believe that my first big day romance-wise happened in a country that I am not from and with a guy who is not Chinese.But I think it just made the whole thing fun, cool and memorable.Nor did I know about this first date, second date and third date business.In France, it’s very common for a girl to go out to dinner with a male friend. If she says she can’t go when you ask her out for a date, it’s probably true. An Italian girl always wants to know how much you are willing to work for her. American girls pay attention to how they dress, but guys… They’re often deemed as looking acceptable once they meet the minimum standards. An American girl isn’t so much into ‘the chase’ — she generally doesn’t run away for too long, or too far away.If your expat game plan includes finding love then you’ll need to wrap your brain around romancing the American way. S.-style dating looks a lot like it does elsewhere: find someone you don’t hate on sight and who you strongly suspect isn’t a serial killer, then arrange to meet for some kind of shared food or beverage experience. It’s like a job or house hunt, which means investigating more than one prospect at a time. Here, people tend to take a business-like approach to finding a mate.If it’s not been mentioned yet, best assume your date is currently pretending to laugh at a couple of other people’s jokes too.