It is unfortunate that so many people join dating sites but so few put a fair effort into writing a really good profile that makes them stand out from thousands of other users.
I am not sure why people go through the trouble of signing up and filling all those questionnaires and then post a profile that looks like a copy of any other neutral, boring, profile full of cliches and types.
What makes any female dating profile great is the fact that it stands out from the rest of the profiles on any given online dating site. It’s not generic, neutral and overly politically correct.
It doesn’t describe you with overused adjectives such as “intelligent, compassionate, educated, and independent” and it is free of boring statements that say nothing such as “I am as comfortable staying in as staying out.” Rather than continue describing what a good profile is, I want to bring to your attention real examples of three actual dating profiles from on popular site that I rated for content.
Bad pictures, poorly written profiles, and misleading information make it frustrating or annoying to sort effectively. If you want to be a man in your online dating profile and truly use the site(s) to attract the woman of your dreams, here are some suggestions. Yes, some idiot actually sent that to me as a text.
For example, the guy who "wants a relationship" but by all other factors in his profile is clearly looking for a hookup. Actually, even if you're on the site just to date, trust me, gentlemen, you'll have better results if you make these few minor adjustments: 1.
If you fail to do either of those two things, she’s instantly moving on to the next guy.
Insisting that a potential date be fit and in shape is fair, if you're fit and in shape. Open Hearts and Minds You go to the head of the line when your profile displays an open heart and an interest in personal growth. Last But Not Least No one is universally desirable, but if you present yourself thoughtfully, your odds for success increase exponentially. He chronicled 25 years working with men in Act Like a Man, his book that explains how to move men beyond their intimacy issues in relationships.En español | Whether you're newly single and a bit rusty, or you have been dating for a while, you probably joined a dating website hoping to meet someone special. The better written and complete, the more appealing the story is. Stating you aren't interested in someone with political views 180 degrees different from yours is fine, but adding that you find the view repugnant is over the top. He's been dating in the digital world since its inception, and he's gleaned what works and what doesn't. Headshots work, but a potential date also wants to see the rest of you. And a photo without an accompanying detailed story is likely to preclude anyone from selecting you thoughtfully. Attention to Detail While I notice a woman's photo first, I also enjoy reading her story describing her 50-plus years of living and loving life. And there's no excuse for spelling or grammatical errors. What to Limit Your political attitude, while valid, need not be intolerant. Ken Solin is an author, lecturer and blogger who writes on the topic of families, relationships, dating and more from the perspective of a 50-plus.You can sort through five or more supposedly "highly qualified leads" -- in some cases daily. If you: Put up recent pictures up that show your eyes (and not your lavatory); Put thought into your profile; Message me directly with something thoughtful; Get my number, and Ask me out ..you're proving you're not afraid to take the lead. The question is, whose definition of highly qualified are we talking about? You're demonstrating that you know how to do this whole taking-care-of-a-woman thing from the start. Struggling to write a dating profile that gets results? Most guys find it difficult or frustrating to write about themselves, so taking the easy route with a two-liner like this can be pretty tempting: However, if you’re looking for the total package, a short, boring profile like this isn’t going to cut it.The more attractive the woman, the fiercer the competition.(This first sentence says nothing eye-catching about the woman and is very bland, and boring). (still, nothing thought provoking or attractive) I am very spontaneous and I love the outdoors, watching movies, dancing, and traveling. (Finally something somewhat interesting that she says about herself).(Another cliché statement that is being used by thousands of other women) A great date can be staying at home with a movie and popcorn, or a night on the town. I made myself a promise a few years ago to take a vacation somewhere new, out of state, every year. Well, that is a little about me if you are interested say hello and we will chat. ” *********************** This profile gets a higher grade because it reflects on the writer’s character and her personality.While opposites may attract, my dating experience jibes with nearly every expert's advice: Such relationships rarely work. A positive, wholesome attitude reflects good self-esteem, and youthful enthusiasm suggests that age is just a number for you. Your Passions Express your passions as activities you'd like to share. Whether your passion is sailing, going to concerts, taking road trips, cooking, dancing, attending sporting events, motorcycling, playing an instrument, singing or engaging in any other activity that makes you smile when you talk about it, write about that passion in a manner reflecting how it would feel to share it with someone special. Travel Instead of listing every place you've visited, pick a favorite and shoot an imaginary film of it with someone special. My movie is strolling arm in arm with a sweetheart along the tree-lined Seine on a sunny spring morning, the Musee d'Orsay Impressionists, a late lunch at a sidewalk cafe and an afternoon of lovemaking. He has written about relationships for the Huffington Post.If you're a skier, and mention you have a ski rental, you'll attract passionate skiers. This is an ideal opportunity to script your perfect fantasy. Certainly not mine, and according to the women in my circles, not theirs either. It's not so much that the gentlemen themselves aren't high quality (though some aren't) -- it's the marketing. I can't wait to meet you and suck those big a-- tit-s you got." ICK! I commented in parentheses throughout the profiles below what I thought of them and why: I gave this profile a passing grade because while it’s not great, nothing about it makes it terrible.