So we asked some smart and savvy women to give us their takes on modern dating.If nerves and fear of the unknown have kept you from ever signing up for a dating app, we hear you.It’s illogical, irrational and out of our conscious control because it works on a primitive level based largely on whether your body wants to get close to theirs (which is why you don’t know if you’ve got it until you meet in person).The list goes out the window when chemistry walks into our lives and so it should.Ok Cupid found that when some men think a woman is ugly, other men are more likely to message them.
From trying to figure out where to meet nice guys to navigating a budding romance, dating can often feel like too much to handle on your own.So ladies, my question for you is this: How have you made your experience with dating apps lead to real connections rather than just hook ups?I was talking with some girlfriends one day and one told me that she gets men messaging her on a certain app for quick hookups. I use the exact same app and had never once had a man inquire about a sexual rendezvous.He told me it wasn’t that he minded she was overweight; he was upset by the fact that she lied to him.Some people feel posting inaccurate photos of themselves is the only way to get dates because people judge so heavily by appearance. But are those dates resulting in the relationship you were looking for? Don’t skimp on your profile: I’m just going to say it — filling out your online dating profile is a pain in the ass, especially if you have to take a long quiz beforehand to determine your personality type.I’m not saying these women have landed on any one magical app full of dateable men and steady dates.But with a discerning eye and a sense of humor, they have tamed Tinder and are meeting men who share their desire for a relationship.Dating apps don’t exactly have a good reputation for supplying men you might actually be able to date.Thanks to horror stories from friends and that But here is the secret: Tons of women who have tried dating apps have actually met nice guys!To oversimplify what I mean, let’s take coffee for example. Only use current photos in your profile: One of the most common complaints I hear from men is that women frequently misrepresent themselves in their photos by using old photos (sometimes decades old) or by cropping them in too tightly so you don’t realize they are of a certain body type.Most people can agree they don’t like scalding hot coffee, but it’s tough to get people to agree on how they do like their coffee. Obviously men do this as well; I’ve just heard this complaint more frequently from men than from women. It’s time efficient - simply go online in the comfort of your own home and view hundreds of potential partners on any number of dating websites catering for every possible taste.And it’s convenient - you can narrow the search for a partner by listing what you will and won’t put up with.On the downside, it feeds into our already rampant expectations that there is indeed a perfect person out there who will tick all our boxes. You’re effectively making a list of all the characteristics and features that make up your idea of the perfect person: hair colour, height, income, likes, dislikes. Believing in Mr Perfect is about as silly as believing Christian Grey really does exist.