From the introvert's perspective, the extrovert is the one to light up the room, and through the extrovert's lens, the introvert offers clarity and sanctuary from the spotlight.(Disclaimer: Bear with me through the overdone references to deceased family members….) My grandpa used to say that “the quietest person in the room is the smartest.” It makes sense. They harbor all the knowledge of their environment and make rational decisions.
That doesn't mean introverts don't need a little extrovert push every now and then, which is what makes them such compatible, dynamic couples.
So what are the signs that you're an outgoing introvert? You’re not anti-social, you’re selectively social When you're an outgoing introvert it’s hard for you to meet people that you like.
You can be simultaneously charming as hell, but also introspective and reflective to an annoyingly mind-numbing degree.
Moreover, dating an introverted man can have many advantages.
So, what should you remember when dating someone who’s more withdrawn than you? A different style of communication is the most striking and significant thing about dating an introverted man.
Just as nature abhors a vacuum, we abhor vacuous small talk.Being an extrovert with a hot temper I find it difficult to deal with introverted people.A few years ago I was dating a very shy man and our relationship collapsed because I couldn’t meet his basic needs and I couldn’t understand fundamental things about being an introvert.You live inside your head, but can also be the life of the party - it all depends on the people surrounding you.2.Meeting someone you really like can feel like finding the Chupacabra Outgoing introverts HATE small talk and the reason you may not like someone when you first meet them may be as simple as that the person you just met is an extrovert.As all of the "Get to Know Your Introvert" posts have outlined, introverts get their energy from within, while extroverts get their energy from other people.This means introverts are drained by social situations and need to quietly retreat within themselves in order to recharge, while extroverts are energized by being around other people aaaaaall the time.This is how we form lasting bonds with others: one-on-one and through personally meaningful conversation. Or how people will say that, in dating, calling is preferable to texting because it's more personal or thoughtful or whatever? If you call, please have a reason for doing so and get to it quickly. It's not that we don't like going out — we love it!All superficial communication feels like punishment.2. Just don't be surprised if we're on the other end giving the phone side-eye and waiting for it to go to voicemail.3. We just have to be mentally prepared for it, and if we have spent all day assuming our evening would consist of pizza delivery and Netflix bingeing, then that is what we are doing. But we're not unreasonable: If you want to go out when we don't, by all means, go out!Since you have spectrums of introversion, coffee can actually overstimulate your central nervous system that may cause you to feel overwhelmed and exhausted, rather than excited and engaged. You probably hate traditional systems Most of our societal constructs cater to the extrovert - from large office spaces to loud bars to the structure of our educational system - despite the fact that anywhere from one-third to half of the population has an introverted temperament.Since an outgoing introvert can feel distracted or vulnerable when they are in overstimulating environments, you probably dislike traditional systems. People always confuse you for an extrovert Extroverts and outgoing introverts may seem almost the same on the surface, and if you’re an outgoing introvert you’ve probably been called an extrovert many times. Since introverts and extroverts have different world perspectives, they view each other as different and thus are naturally predisposed against one another.Most people, and I was no exception, credit numerous stereotypes about introverts.Yes, they are reserved, sometimes strange and hard to understand, but they are people as well.Chances are you’ll forget about the argument, but your sweetheart can start talking about it in several days.