You can’t meet someone in Hawaii when you’re begrudgingly walking circles around Newark.You can’t find someone on a trip you refuse to go on.To help you out with that, I’ve been quotes that sum up how just about all of us feel when we have a crush.They cover the butterflies in your stomach, the frustration, the longing, the hope, the happiness, and just about every other feeling that comes hand in hand (see what I did there? Hopefully among these quotes you’ll find a saying to help you understand how you feel and to remind you you’re not the only one going through this.Especially since I’ve been there, done that, got the t-shirt. What we’re willing to put up with for one person we hardly can tolerate with another. No one is coercing you to stay with someone who doesn’t treat you like you deserve, so why do we do it? If you find yourself on the brink of temptation, look at these 10 truths before you leap: 1. A man who is in a very unhappy or unsatisfying marriage can feel swept away by how wonderful you make him feel.He may even blurt out, "I've never felt this way before and I can see spending the rest of my life with you." This may sound like a commitment to a future with you. Don't confuse his loving the way you make him feel with his loving you and making a commitment to you. Cheating on his wife tells you how he deals with any situation he doesn't like.
But that’s more about discretion than keeping a “dirty little secret”. Although it’s nice to hear that they love you and cherish you, does that really mean anything if they don’t want to share it, and you, with others? The existence of your relationship with a married man tells you how little he respects his wife by lying to her instead of being a man and telling her he wants out. Like the Groucho Marx joke, "He may not want to be of a relationship that would have him as a partner." 7. Like it or not, you are a willing participant in a man violating his vows and betraying the trust of his wife -- not to mention grossly disappointing his children and making it difficult for them to see him as a role model. If he is caught by his wife or conscience, don't be surprised if he tries to blame you and get you to take the fall. Because it's convenient and comfortable, a relationship with a married man can go on for a long time -- and before you know it, eat up the precious time you might have had in a healthy relationship with a chance of flourishing.When people who have been involved with married men finally move on, they often regret having wasted the time in a dead-end affair.Maybe you’re lucky and you can confide in a friend but some of us choose to keep our crush to ourselves for various reasons.Sometimes it can be a very lonely feeling too – you can’t quite believe that anyone understands what you’re going through.a.k.a He'll NEVER stay that into you There are no positive reasons for dating a married man.Even the good reasons don't stand the test of time and turn out to be bad ideas in good ideas' clothing.These so-called relationships are typically great, ideal in every way, except, well, it’s not public. For one reason or another no one knows about the relationship except maybe a very select few. When I saw a tongue in cheek article about this very thing this week, I decided perhaps it warranted a little more discussion. You are evidence of his avoiding dealing with unpleasant situations head on. Having to keep your relationship a secret can attack your self-esteem and cause you to miss out on one of the wonderful aspects of a relationship. He has a legitimate married relationship that helps his public persona and he has an illegitimate one with you to make up for what heâs missing in his marriage. Even though he's the one that made it difficult to say "No." And even though he tells you how wonderful you are. Many men (and women) have difficulty accepting full responsibility for their deceitful actions.This means that he's likely to resort to some devious behavior with you if the two of you encounter relationship problems. Walking together freely and radiantly through the world can fill you with the glow of being with someone who is proud to be with you. As appreciative as he sounds, many women who are involved with married men come to resent his having the best of both worlds, when she has the least. Can you love someone who is so disrespectful of his wife? At some level, he's going to have trouble respecting you for settling for such a flawed relationship. Despite his reassuring you how much you mean to him, his not ending his relationship with his wife in an above-board and respectful way -- and not beginning a legitimate relationship with you -- are actions that speak louder than words. Human nature finds it easier to blame than to accept shame. Ever notice how quickly the years go as you get older?I often get emails from women who are in seemingly “secret” relationships with men. We all have our different reasons, it could be ego, it could be love, it could be low self esteem, or maybe they’re everything you ever wanted, your soulmate. I’ve also been there and I would think many can say the same. If he doesn’t treat you like someone special in his life PUBLICLY then you might just be his “dirty little secret”, sorry to say. I certainly did, but I enabled their bad behavior because there was love there and love conquers all doesn’t it?