Anyone who’s ever dated online has had that moment – the blinking cursor, the empty text box, the racing heart, and the brain so temporarily empty, it has tumbleweed running through it. Make yourself a soothing cup of tea, and we’ll talk about how to do it right.
This is basic, but sometimes daters forget that the first thing a match will do when they receive an interesting email is click on the profile of the person who sent it.
Here’s match.com’s relationship expert Kate Taylor with dating advice on how to give great copy. I’ve had many dates over the years and have managed to have a few sporadic one night stands and hook ups.In the last year or two since I turned 24 I noticed I’ve been getting better luck with that, but still not enough luck. I’m now 26 and I’d honestly like to find something that lasts.Use that scientific discovery to your own advantage, by starting your email with a “Hello [Username]” and not a non-specific “Hi.” If you want to create a feeling of warmth, shorten their name, use its initials, or create a nickname based on one of their interests. Everyone loves to read about themselves, so don’t begin your message by launching straight in about you.Instead, start by saying what caught your eye about their profile.Usually just making some fun observation or a random that I’m a fairly average looking guy.Most people would probably consider me a 5-7 out of 10 in looks.So why is it that so many guys and girls (yes girls too) fail miserably in avoiding the move from the Inbox to the trash can?Extensive research into online dating statistics show that there are some set rules that we all need to follow.Here’s a new article which I wrote as a special to Yahoo! And while I never write emails for others, the request makes perfect sense. ———————————————————— Of all the things that clients (especially men) ask me to help them with, the most common query involves assistance with writing introductory emails.It might not sound very romantic, but you can’t argue with stats and figures and following a set of guidelines will probably help you feel more comfortable when sending your first message.Tone down the Netspeak Netspeak is the main culprit when it comes to unsuccessful first mails.Online dating gives you a bit of an advantage in that you can strategically plan that first message so it hits home with a bit of a punch.